The old “I’ve wrestled with my demons and won” line? How about a simple, “I’m a pretty hot colossal f**k up”?
It’s always a little awkward when a potential date wants to “meet you for a drink.” Telling them you’re sober feels like confessing to some horrible chronic STD.
Quite often, if you see religion in something, where there is no direct reference to God or Christianity in general, it is bacause of your upbringing (mine is the same - I see religon in everything, and it's hard to just ignore it.. Just as long as you have a Higher Power that helps you to stay sober. There are open meetings, attend them and see for yourself. One of the biggest Myths, is this pre-conceived false belief by outsiders who do not understand.It was so hard to simply walk around the 1 block in front of our beach-side house. I can;t say for sure, but in my case, I have found that I can accept "religious" stuff if I quietly replace any reference to God and such with my own personal belief..Granted it is very hard, as what I believe doesn;t really alow for a replacement.. You come to believe in a Higher Power as you see it. first off, I know the AA recommendation about not dating during your first year of sobriety. :) My ex-boyfriend and I broke up a couple of months ago (completely amicable, he moved to Chicago to start grad school and the distance just became unsustainable, I live in San Francisco). He's great, seems very stable and self-aware, he doesn't drink (not in the program but just chooses not to).My ex has been great and supportive, he was also in the program and recently shared with me some of the things that went wrong in the disastrous relationship he got into at 3 months sober -- being overly vulnerable, got attached too quickly, and lost focus on himself and his recovery, as a way of helping me know what pitfalls to look out for.