I am having a devil of time trying to deal with everyday issues as well as trying to make sure we raise our son the proper way. Even if your husband is willing to compromise with you, I'm sure his friends are not encouraging it and maybe even making fun of him. Eventually, it will become more difficult as time goes on to differentiate which direction your son will go religiously, and he will have to choose one day.
My husband feels that my son is being raised only the hispanic way and not the persian way. Because no matter what, you CANNOT have a mixed-culture family be EXACTLY like how it would be, in your Mother country. In the meantime, embrace parts of the culture, such as Ramadan and maybe learn some Persian dishes.
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Do you feel the religion has become more important as the relationship grows?
When I got pregnant, he had asked to get an abortion because he did not want our son. In my State, there are so many different cultures... He has NO ONE, of his family, right there with him. ---------------- EDITED TO ADD: I just read your update about the pushing you to have an abortion and leaving the country to be engaged and hiding the child until he was a year old. And while some may argue the whole "Not Without My Daughter" scenario is extreme, the truth is, that it happens... It happened to my former coach as well and she hasn't seen her son in over 15 years. I'm in an intercultural/ interreligious relationship with my husband.
After, our son was born, he went back to Iran and got engaged to another woman. you HAVE TO concede and be flexible and INCORPORATE that into your daily family routines... and ethnicities, that we all pretty much don't think twice about it anymore... I am fully 100% genetically of one race (not white, but which race is unimportant to the topic) and my husband is a blue-eyed man of European descent. Since my identity is from country x, my parents were immigrants and it was very important to the that just because they changed geographic locations they were not going to lose their identity, I see myself and my children as descendants of that country and culture. I have to remind myself constantly that they are half white.
Generally, we have two extreme categories for Iranian families.
I read that it is permissable for a muslim man to get married to a christian or jewish woman - is this allowed in South Africa.
If yes then how would we get married according to muslim customs and processes, in court or how? I see his family every week and I attend all gatherings. He has told me that it might be a problem and we might not end up together because I am not Jewish.
Does this difference in religions impact the relationship?
Name = Marilyn Years Married = Number of Children = 2 Country & City = South Africa, Cape Town Subject = need advice I have been in a relationship with a muslim man for more than 3years and we have a child together.