Plus, navigating the world of dating is already a mess, so being on an extreme end of any physical spectrum doesn't exactly make it any easier.
Kevin: I'm not one to complain about being short, because once you realize you can shop in the children's section and climb on top of things to get to out-of-reach objects, you're pretty much on a level playing field with the rest of the world. I think a lot of guys fetishize the height gap and say things like, "I'm so into you because you're so short," or "It's really hot knowing that I could lift you up in bed," etc.
However, I also deal with so many ignorant men who make a huge deal about my height, probably to bury their own insecurity or intimidation.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.
Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.
It's hard to ignore something as obvious as height, especially if it makes a person stand out.
Here, guys dish on photos, profiles, and all the things you’re doing right and wrong to get their attention.
You don’t have to overhaul your strategy based off of these guys' thoughts, but if you’re in a rut, take some tips right from the stallion’s mouth.“When you have too many pictures with family members, it makes us think you’re going to drag us to family functions early on.
The best profiles are short and convey that a girl is open-minded.” –Will, 31“I would bypass a profile if a woman's profile said that a guy ‘needs to make me laugh.’ Don’t just tell me what you need a guy to do for you—emphasize the traits you find most attractive.
Balance the family photos with you doing something fun—like hanging out at a stadium—so I have a better idea of what our time together will be like.” –James, 42“If the woman’s photos are only with friends, I automatically think she is shy and insecure about her looks.
I would like to see a confident picture of her by herself doing something she loves.
Breaking character, then, I give you (in random order) 10 things he wishes you knew about him.1.
Even Men Like Compliments Every Once in a While Real guys, or so the story goes, don't need praise.