One includes the scammer telling the victim that they don't have enough annual leave left to come and visit them but that they can buy some from their employer.This costs around £250 a day, so 10 days will cost £2,500.Letters are exchanged between the scammer and victim until the scammer feels they have groomed the victim enough to ask for money.This might be for requests for gas money or bus and airplane tickets to travel to visit the victim, medical expenses, education expenses etc.There is usually the promise that the fictitious character will one day join the victim in the victim's country.The scam usually ends when the victim realizes they are being scammed or stops sending money.
The fraud typically involves the scammer acting as if they've quickly fallen for the victim so that when they have the opportunity to ask for money, the victim at that time has become too emotionally involved, and will have deep feelings of guilt if they decline the request for money from the scammer.
Again, both men and women can and have fallen victim to online dating scammers, but women tend to be targeted more aggressively.
Interestingly, the AARP says that men fall victim to these scams more often, but that women are more likely to report the scam.
According to recent figures, these requests for cash appear to be working.
There were 651 dating scams reported in the three months to August this year, with the average victim paying out £9,589.