When we’re trying to figure out our own type it can be difficult when two (or more) types fill a relatively similar role in society.I mentioned in the article about INFPs vs INFJs that these two types are here to help us gain greater emotional intelligence, but they do so in slightly different (and necessary) ways. Both types blow me away with their ability to manage extraordinary amounts of information while trying to avoid cognitive biases.They hate people who make dumb decisions based on emotions so don’t be that person and you might have a chance.INTJWhy: Ever dreamed of being handed the keys to a shiny new Australia?I have a working theory that every type in the Myers-Briggs system is integral to social ecology.It doesn’t matter if a specific type drives you crazy, they are necessary to keep us balanced as humans.A relationship with this quiet but self-sure individual can be very enlightening to the participants as a couple as well as on an individual level.
While the service these two types perform for humanity is similar, they help us calibrate to new ways of thinking in different ways.
ENTJWhy: How: Be emotionally stable and intelligent.
They won’t marry you if you can’t deal with your emotions, and if you’re looking for a shoulder to cry on in a potential spouse I would not recommend you marry an ENTJ.
For an INTJ, this dominant process is technically called Introverted Intuition, but we’ve nicknamed it “Perspectives.” Perspectives is a learning function (technically called a “perceiving function”), and works by watching one’s own mind form patterns.
After years of use, eventually Perspectives begins to see the ‘pattern of the patterns’ and understands that what is happening inside of themselves cognitively is also happening for other people.