Even though they have the edge on Caucausian women with their “slender, pliable figures”, the beauty of Chinese becomes a disadvantage when it comes to foreign men who are “more blunt about what they want than the average local fellows”.Incapable of repelling sexual advances due to being “inhibited about their sexuality” and a “submissive nature in the bedroom”, Stephanie describes Chinese women as Shanghai’s renewable resource that keeps replenishing the carnal needs of its dating pool, “ensuring that most Western men here are never short on sex”.To cut a long story short, I went up to Beijing, Lila came down to Shanghai a couple of weeks later, and before long we had become a couple.
Anyway, I really wanted to do my best to experience fully Chinese life, and dating seemed as good a way as any as doing this.
If part of the problem is that Chinese women aren’t able to say “no”, the other half is that Chinese men aren’t able to ask the question.
For many expats moving to Shanghai or Beijing, dating can be a vexed question.
Stephanie begins by establishing the first rule to learn about dating in Shanghai: Expat men are “spoiled by choice” by “a frenzy of dating as many local women as they possibly can with absolutely no commitment to any of them”.
Such an impossible situation is made possible by Chinese women who aren’t able to say “no” when it comes to expat men.