You start Internet stalking their new partner WAY too hard It’s funny how fast a simple “in a relationship” status can devolve into creeping on your ex’s new girlfriend’s sister’s wedding photos. For some reason your brain always tricks you into thinking that you’re in competition with the new person in your ex’s life, which is silly since A) she already has the ex and B) you don’t really want the ex anyways.
It’s a slippery slope, and no matter how strong your self-control, eventually you’re gonna end up looking at her profile pictures and the profile pictures of everyone she’s known since 2009. The fix: It’s important to remember that your relationship ended for a reason, and that no matter how similar or different you are to the you-replacement, that isn’t going to change the fact that you and your ex weren’t a good match.
When I break up with someone I ship them off to an imaginary island where they roam free and make coconut snowmen and live very happy, very celibate lives far, far away from me.
It’s a pretty effective system; I don’t think about what they’re doing or whom they’re doing it with, and gradually the left over feelings start to fade.
Seeing your ex with someone new is always going to be weird, no matter how shark-infested your island waters, or how long you’ve left them stranded.
And then I want to escape to a remote, Internet-free island IRL.You start to wonder how your ex is or what your ex is up to.So you get on Facebook to have a little peek into the life of your ex.I think it’s important to understand that all of the thoughts listed above, many times, aren’t true.Just because someone has moved on quickly, it doesn’t mean that they didn’t love us or that they’re over us or that the relationship didn’t matter to them.